#platform/youtube #channel/Master-YongHua #playlist/dharma-glimpses  When you're not straightforward, you say something that disagrees with your mind, you creating conflict internally. You won't like it. You won't feel comfortable. You'll be afflicted. You're hurting yourself first. Never mind about others. If they upset at you, okay, that's fine. But you hurt yourself. You're afflicting yourself. You don't try to fool them, but it doesn't mean you have to offend them. Who says that being straightforward mean that you have to offend someone you so ugly let me speak my mind oh my god why you so ugly do not contradict your mind that's being straightforward and applies not only to words but also in behavior words is what I use an example for you to illustrate that whatever you say is in sync with what you think but also also in terms of bodies as well not just mouth body karmas there three karmas mind karmas mouth karma said and body karmas so your mind karma is consistent with your body karma and your mouth karma that's being straightforward in no uncertain terms is no compromise here have to be in sync but you don't have to do anything you don't have to pretend I would tell you one great advantage of being straightforward is that even if we offend them if If we can overcome that problem, the the bond becomes stronger. This the nature of relationship is faith. It's based on faith, on trust. If they know you're straightforward with them, they believe you can be trusted. Why? Because no one else is straightforward with them. By the way, no one. Does it make sense to you? Everyone out there, our society, we conditioned to lie to protect ourselves. It doesn't pay to be straightforward. However, you learn to be straightforward. And if you're smart, sometimes you offend them on purpose. And if they survive, they grow stronger. The relationship, the bond is stronger. You cannot go around all day worrying that they're going to offend someone. And that's why sometimes better to you know do something in order not to offend. Okay. rather than offend. And that's why if you are like that the relationship is not really there's not a whole lot of trust. You cannot be yourself. You're so afraid to offend someone and be judged. This is what I observe. When you forced not to be yourself, you're not real as a person. You really, no one really trusts you. That's what's sad about it to me that relationship is wonderful if it has it ups and downs. It nothing is hunky dory all the time. There's no such a thing in life. A flower will die. The nature of relationship is has ups and down and still when you the worst of time you still manage to stick together that's how the relationship gets better or you break it and move on okay and find someone who's worth fighting for it A to a to a to