#channel/bodhi-light-teachings  In a typical relationship, we're going to have issues and it builds up to the point where one day it will make you so afflicted. And ordinary people you will have a drink, they will play video games to distract themselves from it. The Buddhists, we train our students to learn to look at ourselves. First of all, I acknowledge to myself, yes, I'm afflicted. And if you get better at it, you will acknowledge to your wife and say, "Honey, you're right. I'm so afflicted. Please forgive me." It has a way of really throwing water on the fire.